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Hey guys, Duke delayed for the self positive podcast

Hey guys, Duke delayed for the self positive podcast. This is Episode 12, and it is titled start building your self esteem today. Let’s get into it. Alright so what is self esteem Let me ask you that question right now. High self esteem is extremely important characteristic of all highly successful people. There are some people who are super successful that don’t have good self worth that they’re not driven in that way. Some people are driven by the, having to prove everybody wrong and having the revenge factor but most people don’t reach their full potential or even close to it or what’s worse is they’re not happy once they reach it I heard a story once of the guy, I think it was because Megadeth, the guy who was in the mega death. The started Megadeth, he basically got fired from Metallica, and he’s been his life mission, trying to beat out Metallica, number one, as far as being a metal band, and they created hundreds of thousands of fans and this massive global music thing, but he was never happy with his results because he never got to beat him. And although he became famous more famous than anybody I know they, he still was unhappy at the end of it and so coming at it from a low self esteem perspective doesn’t mean you can’t be successful, but most successful people do have high self esteem it without high levels of self esteem you’re unlikely to see yourself being worthy of success or happiness, and as a result, you’re never going to truly try your hardest or achieve things and you’re not going to reach your full potential. I self esteem is going to give you the courage to give you to keep you going. It’s going to keep. It’s going to keep you going and things get tough when, and when other people are all on your grill trying to tell you that you can’t do it. I’m going to be giving you doubt they’re going to be trying to inject the project their reality of self doubt onto you, it’s going to keep you going and keep you believing in yourself. I self esteem and I mean developing and building that high self esteem is probably one of the most important things you can ever do for yourself, and the moon, the most valuable ones as well. Unfortunately, the value of self esteem is probably the most often overlooked because there’s such an acceptance culture of saying, oh, how you are is fine, and there’s nothing wrong with that per se, but if you’re going to accept your shortcomings in a way that keeps you rooted in mediocrity and not growing, then it allows you to get complacent. It allows you get lazy, it allows you get non productive and it allows you to get average and get average results. While there’s not necessarily anything wrong with that. And you definitely shouldn’t be beating yourself up if your results aren’t stellar right now, because that’s not helpful, either. It is good to understand your shortcomings and then work on growing in those areas, so that you can move forward and become the best that you can be, because the world needs to hear your voice, then the world needs to hear what you have to say, to learn what you have to teach and if you hold it back to the world you’re cheating yourself and the whole world. Yeah. So, we can all improve our self esteem in one way or another, and working on that consistently will consistently bring you positive results and growth in the future. So let’s cover some things that build self esteem. I mean this is like simple stuff. Basically, anything that makes you feel good about yourself. It makes you feel important or valuable as a person will build your level of self esteem. Now, sometimes you can feel good at yourself, good about yourself. Sometimes you can feel good about yourself by comparison. So you’ll hang out with people who aren’t going anywhere and then you feel like if you’re a little bit more. Hustle than they are then you feel good, but you’re always going to find somebody who was hustling harder than you. So, if you start using comparison as a goal, it’s usually like a half completed circle, but anything that makes you feel good when it stops making you feel good, then stop doing it right because your self worth is. It’s a physical thing but if you are just going through the motions to get something accomplished, and then not not really feeling the effects of it it’s not affecting your self worth at all. If your life is full of the stuff that makes you feel good about yourself on a daily basis, then your self love and self esteem is going to rise automatically.

However, the opposite is also true, anything that makes you feel bad or reduces your feelings of worthiness or importance or makes you second guess yourself and jack self doubt that’s going to lower your self esteem. And some of the causes of low self esteem we’ve been over in a couple of other blogs and a couple other podcasts, but if you look at self esteem like, like, whether you feel good or you feel bad on a regular basis, then it’s just a balance between the things that make you feel good, and the things that make you feel bad if you feel good more often than you do bad. Then you’re going to have high self esteem. And then vice versa. Now this isn’t like a hardcore research based scientific approach to self worth self actualization self esteem. This is a practical guide to okay where am I at, right, last episode we talked about running tests online to figure out holes in your personality, so you can work to grow them, but on a day to day basis when you’re not doing active like diagnosis or analysis of it is important to be able to kind of feel your way through, whether you’re feeling good about yourself today or not. So why is this important. Well, many of the people who suffer from low self esteem. They continue to expose themselves to things that make them feel bad, it becomes addictive becomes a cycle. And so if there. I, when I like for instance when I broke up with one of my girlfriends, a couple years ago, three years ago. All I did was drink for, I think, six eight months, as I moved forward, and I wasn’t productive I wasn’t doing things, good for myself I wasn’t working on my health I wasn’t doing anything I was just like, wallowing in my misery and then using, you know TV and alcohol to kind of cope with it which I’m not talking shit about alcohol I certainly love a good scotch, but there’s no reason to drop, you know, three bottles of in a week in order to cope with my mindset and the pain of the loss right like, that’s just, I’m a, I’m in a low place. I got rejected and betrayed by somebody I thought wasn’t ever going to do that to me and then now I expose myself to all this other stuff like alcohol and just not sleeping and all these things that were negatively affecting me so if if you’re like that. And you’re in a low self, you’re in a low self esteem space, then you’re likely to do behaviors that is going to continue to exacerbate your self esteem problem, and hang out, the same people every day. rightfully or laugh at you, they’re going to talk to yourselves in a way that lacks respect like, like, you know, you talk shit about yourself you talk shit to yourself. If you’re saying you’re loser you can’t do anything right, you start focusing on all the negative stuff, and where the focus goes the energy flows right. If you continue to focus on all the negative shit then you’re going to continue to manifest the negative shit in your life. So, having low self esteem is almost starts the cycle of low self esteem to continue to exacerbate and I

hate that

I have to pattern interrupt that shit

I have to pattern interrupt that shit. Every single time. In order to keep a positive state of mind. So this is the next point, which is change your life, change your thoughts. The key is change. Okay. If you are able to identify the things that make you feel bad and replace some of the things that make you feel good, ultimately, your self esteem is going to improve. You’re not gonna have to try to improve and build up your self esteem it’s going to have happen automatically. Because you’re constantly feeling good about yourself. The principle of change is so simple that is often overlooked. It’s like the answer really is just think good thoughts, bro. People come used to doing the same things. same things day in day out there, they got a routine they have patterns go to the same job they have the same see the same people go to lunch with the same people, they come home they watch the same shows on Netflix, they pass out in the same bed, and then they get up, they do the same thing the same next day and it goes over and over and over again, and that routine as long as long as it makes you feel bad, it’s going to continue to keep you in that feeling bad space and drop your self esteem before. So, your thought patterns also remain the same every day, so you feel the same every day. If you change your thought patterns, then you’re going to feel differently and then the results are going to come after that, right, if you, if you change how you think you’re going to change how you feel is gonna change how you behave, it’s going to change how you act, and that’s the real importance of change is why sometimes you need to change your life force, first of the year change your life first before you change your thoughts and vice versa. I’m telling you to think positive first, but sometimes there’s nothing to think positive about is relatively little to focus on this positive. So you need to make strides in your life to focus on positive things even if it’s small, so you can continue to feel good about yourself as you move forward. For instance, I, I was jobless my industry took a shit, and I was in a place where I couldn’t pay rent, and it was, you know, I’m going to do this coaching thing for the rest of my life like it’s, this is my life passion I know it, but right then it wasn’t paying the bills like early like two three weeks ago. And so instead of sitting around and whining and getting depressed and sleeping too much or whatever I what I did is I just went out on a job search. And I applied to everything, and I have no pride about it, man I, I did an interview at Starbucks I did did Postmates for a while, and what it got me into was a routine of winning, even though I was only winning it close to minimum wage. I started to focus on the progress I was making the forward progress I was making, and then I took that money, and I started moving it into more of the coaching stuff. I bought some more components to the website and things, and it’s, it gives me you know being able to hit the rent and being able to hit you know the gym bills and all that stuff and and feel good about that stuff, made me feel good as a person even though I wasn’t like knocking it out of the park on the success training, I mean I’m looking at projecting 30 to 60 grand a month in the middle of the year after all my content marketing stuff kind of takes hold and all my SEO takes hold, but it wasn’t making me feel good, three weeks ago. Just the ambition wasn’t making me feel good so I had to start taking action, even if it was small action. So that I can focus on the positive results of the action I was taking. So changing your mindset is going to break your current thought patterns and create new patterns of thought. It’s up to you to create patterns that are going to be useful and enrich your life and you do this by exposing yourself to the things that make you feel good and limiting your exposure to things that make you feel bad and that will raise your value as a person on a practical level.

All right, I think that’s all I got to say about that so we’ll see you guys tomorrow on the self positive pod cast

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for episode I think 13. Until tomorrow. Stay awesome and stay positive. If you have questions or have anything to add to this stuff, put comments on the blog or reach out to me on social and I will be happy to reach back. Stay awesome stay positive.