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Hey guys, Duke here for the self, positive podcast we’re here on episode 14

Hey guys, Duke here for the self, positive podcast we’re here on episode 14. This one’s called self motivation the desire to succeed, and jump into it. Alright so you wake up in the morning. The alarm clocks beeping at you, your phone’s flipping out. You’re thinking yourself what is the point of getting up this early. For some of us motivation is simply desire shut off the clock. That’s vibrating on the nights and others it’s truly self motivation it’s like an internal alarm clock that motivates you to make the best of your day. There’s a lot of talk. I don’t know if you’ve heard Mel Robbins talk on Ted about the five second rule, and how she just like when the alarm goes off, she just gets up gets down from five, and then just get up check it out. I’ll link in the show notes, it’s pretty badass. She built a whole information Empire, based off the five second rule concept, and it’s pretty badass but being self motivated can get you moving because your internal Why is like way better than any of the opposition that you’re going to face in the day. Now everybody wants to succeed in the world. Everybody wants to have a purpose to be a top of the ladder or to, you know, do the best you can, or be the best you can be in any particular area. But why do some people succeed and actually doing this shit and other people don’t. And the answer is self motivation is the several factors that contribute to self motivation. First off, we talked a lot about self worth self doubt and self esteem. In the last two weeks but removing self doubt is one of the most important things to deal with when it comes to motivate yourself to move forward because if you can’t really see yourself actually achieving the shit in the future that you want to achieve, then you’re not going to have a lot of motivation to actually take any actions because you’re not sure they’re going to actually turn out to anything. The second thing that contributes to your self motivation is a desire to succeed. Some people want to succeed is complicated, right, like we all want to succeed. Theoretically, but a lot of us don’t aren’t self aware. A lot of us aren’t self aware of the motivations that we have to succeed itself. A lot of the things that I did in my 20s were just to make my mom happy, or just to make my girlfriend happy or just to try to get laid more or whatever and I didn’t really have a desire to succeed for myself and my own internal purpose driven interests. My desire to succeed was to look good to other people, was too, because I thought it was going to get me liked more than I thought it was gonna get me laid more I thought I was gonna make me more money and it did but when I, when I climbed to the top of the corporate ladder and I made a shit ton of money. It didn’t matter, because I still was feeling empty inside I still wasn’t getting the, the reciprocation from the world that I wanted because I wasn’t putting out what I needed. I was putting out what I thought that they wanted from me and I thought they would give me what I needed. In return, and that’s not how life University energy works. The third thing factor that contributes to your self motivation is your willpower willpower is finite, and we’re going to go into some really deep stuff about willpower I’m sure you’ve heard on other podcasts and, you know, if you if you hang out in the space you understand that willpower is is kind of like an energy bank that you use up during the day and if you spend your time making decisions, then you don’t get to use that decision making power on stuff that matters sometimes so you have to have it and you have to have it. You have to manage it well. In order to use it when it counts and use it on the stuff that matters. The fourth factor that contributes to your self motivation is mental stability. There’s a part of life, that is really good. Be kind of careening out of control big and what I usually call the exploration discovery phase, there’s a part of life that is, it’s fun to see what happens next. Love is a very good example. When you’re first infatuated with somebody and all that rush of emotions and hormones and things. That’s great. That’s a great time to not be stable, because you can enjoy the chaos that it is,

there’s always a time for that but when you’re motivating to, especially get goals accomplished. You have to be clear headed enough not to emotionally respond to every little thing that comes up because without that stability, you end up eddying in little pockets of stuff that you’re doing that have nothing to do with your end goal and then he wastes a lot of time. Other things that contribute to self motivation is your family, your friends, your, your social groups. Like I said before, a lot of people don’t really know why they want to do something they’re just trying to please somebody else in their life and go along the path set out for them by other people who they think has some sort of authority. And it’s, that’s a factor that contributes to your motivation, if, if your motivation is to maintain your social community, and then they don’t want you to do something, then you’re not going to be able to really do it, because if your

if your goal

acts outside of the realm of what’s expected of you in that, in that hierarchy and then you get punished in that hierarchy for pursuing that goal you’re less likely to pursue it your motivation is going to drop. Another factor that tributes to self motivation is your life goals and I don’t mean life goals like goals new life I mean like your end goals you’re, you’re, you know eventually you want to get married or eventually you want to win a Nobel Prize or eventually you want to become an international sex symbol or whatever your big long term goal is, they’re going to dictate the motivation that it takes to do some of the tinier things that as you move up as you move away through movie towards the. Another thing that contributes your self motivation is your daily activities your daily pleasures. If you are busy, like my, my calendar is fucking packed out there’s like 100 items on my things to do every day because I’m running now three businesses. I’m dealing with a massive social circle I’m dealing with projects, multiple projects and each business. If I want to get something done that’s outside of that existing framework, I only have limited time to do it. And so, motivating myself to finish out a passion project something that I really want to do. I need to go into my schedule and break out time for it and seize the day as it were. Otherwise it’s never going to get done, because everything else is just going to take priority. A lot of people with kids will say the same thing they’ll be like, Okay, well, I have kids so I can’t actually do anything of note because I spent all my day, dealing with them and they’re the most important thing in my life. That makes sense. But if you can find time to finish out your goals, even if it takes a long time you know you give yourself fucking 10 minutes a day to work on something and it’ll eventually get done. And you can start delegating and, and fitting yourself into that stuff. It’s, it’ll be really rewarding and will also help you build yourself motivation to move things off into the future. All these factors I just talked about a direct login to access your a, they’re directly going to affect your success in your career, like at school, like, you know, if you’re playing sports or, you know, competing at a high level, if your marriage, like if you’re if you’re, you know they’re gonna affect your relationships are going to affect your leadership at anything charitable if you work at your church or whatever, then they’re gonna affect your success in your parenting and your relationship with the family. If you want to be the best at what you do and work or if you want to graduate with your 4.0. Then you need your self motivation to do it. And, you know, self motivation. If you manage it well, can drive you to, you know, score the winning goal or be a good role model for your kid even when it feels almost impossible. So along with your desire to succeed. It’s going to come. You gotta have that mental stability I was talking about earlier. If you have a bad day. How do you continue on without giving up and distracting yourself. There’s so many people in my life that they’ll start having a bad day they’ll have a depressing thing happen or whatever, and then they spend the rest of their day. Fucking now they smoke a bunch of weed, they drink alcohol, they watch Netflix, they just check out and they don’t even apply themselves they’re like, all right, well, I ran into this Roadblock, I’m not going to push through the roadblock I don’t have the motivation to do that today I’m just going to distract myself for the rest of the day. And there’s nothing wrong with that, but it is pretty time and efficient to not take care of shit when it pops up and that’s what makes your life reasonably mediocre.

If you

continue along with your bad day because you have the mental stability to

continue along with your bad day because you have the mental stability to

do it.

You’re not responding to your emotions as a victim, like you’re not a

You’re not responding to your emotions as a victim, like you’re not a. Your behavior isn’t a result of your emotion spikes. Your behavior as a result of what you know you’re supposed to be doing, whether or not you feel like it or or not. If you have the mental stability and the, the future projection you understand where your goal is and you understand that it’s not going to get done unless you do it, then

you’re going to

finish the work, whether it’s good or whether it’s perfect or not

finish the work, whether it’s good or whether it’s perfect or not. And then it’s just going to keep moving forward. An example of this is like this particular podcast. I’m falling behind on releasing them every day because it’s hasn’t been a priority in my daily task list because I don’t always feel like my heads together enough to put this thing together and give a lot of value, but the point is, I need to release things and you know speed of implementation put things out put things out put things out and then iterate and make them better over time. And so whether I feel like recording this thing or not. I should record it. And so I put it down and now it’s part of my daily tasks that I do no matter what. And because I know in a year from now there’s going to be 304 hundred podcasts that all together that aren’t necessarily the best content on the planet. But after they get broken down in a blog post they get they get put out over social media and all this stuff, then it’s going to create a massive content swell, that’s going to bring people into the newer stuff that I’m doing, and I’m going to be able to help a whole bunch more people, but if I don’t fire it off because I’m feeling. You know, insecure about how useful or helpful I’m being at the moment, then I’m never going to get the practice in that’s going to make me fucking crush it, and I know that I want to be one of the best in this industry at delivering content that actually helps people that’s my whole life mission now. So,

I use that

to keep my mind on track so that when my emotions are being crap

to keep my mind on track so that when my emotions are being crap. They don’t stop, don’t stop, what’s the word I’m looking for, like, I don’t, I don’t stop my behavior just because my feelings don’t want to support it, because I have a bigger goal in mind I got that mental stability to take it forward. Your mind’s a great force if if you put your mind to accomplish something, and you try to the best to do it. Well, you’re going to get somewhere. Your, your willpower is going to be tested because a lot of crazy ass chaos from the world’s gonna come and try throw you off track. But if you stay self motivated because you’re focused on what’s important, rather than kind of throwing in the towel distracting yourself, you’re going to succeed in the end, and you’re going to, you’re going to just showing up, you’re going to get way further and the people who just make plans in addition about it have no entation. It willpower and mental stability and your desire to succeed are all kind of the result of your self motivation, as a feedback loop that supports itself over and over. Another factor that drives to self motivation is your family unit and I was talking about that earlier. It can motivate if it’s healthy, it can only motivate you to be successful, your parents or aunts or uncles or they can inspire you to greater heights. Even your spouse, like, especially a working spouse will crave your pride and your approval like I was like I went to work all day. And then I roll in and you’re like thanks daddy for making me fucking money you know that’s great, that’s awesome. He will, you know, if you’re the working member of the household, you’re going to be okay. You have to be self motivated, because you got to worry whether or not your family’s taken care of financially and, and they’re, they’re getting the proper things to grow up, right. This person, you know the the breadwinner is going to most likely want to earn a higher paycheck and at the end, not only provide for the family but make the family flourish in their environment and. So, if your family is solid like that then you have you have your kids don’t idolize you and they’ll be like, okay, I want to mimic you I want to be like daddy when I grow up and then. Okay, cool. When they see what you’re doing and you’re doing good stuff and you’re still emotionally regulated in the point where you’re not you know distracting or abusing them because you’re not able to handle everything, then you’re going to pass yourself motivation on from one generation to the next to the next to the next. That just like you couldn’t have generational trauma, you can also have generational inspiration, and that’s pretty fucking awesome. If you don’t have actual family, per se. You can also do this to your social circles I have a whole group of people that hang out with me that love to see what I’m doing and moving forward and they watch my wins they watch my utter failures they watch me get depressed they watch me move forward and they there. They’ll tell you, not all of them, but some of them will tell you that. I’m the most positive guy they know I’m the most hard working guy they know and I’m the most ambitious guy they know and it inspires them to move forward and I’ve got a bunch of friends that have spun off their own companies and are doing a lot of stuff because we have similar mindsets and I’m really proud of them and I’m really happy to help wherever they’re going with them. So if, if you don’t have family, you can still do this and these group of people that you are a leader in. Lastly, your self motivation motivation is driven by your daily goals your daily basic routines and not just your life goals I was talking about life goals earlier, not just your end be all end all goals big bucket list goals, but your daily routines and was talking about earlier about this podcast for instance, and like my daily vlog. If I don’t edit the daily vlog. Then, it doesn’t get cut out and put across all my social medias and it doesn’t you know gain followers doesn’t do what it’s supposed to do because it’s not edited, it’s not, it’s not up, it’s not out there in the world. I have all this video the sitting on my hard drive that if I don’t put it together and put it out into the world nobody ever sees it and it doesn’t get any of those auxiliary goals attached. If I don’t record this podcast the blog doesn’t go up the blog doesn’t go up the fucking Twitter’s they’ll go up the Twitter doesn’t go up the fucking Instagrams they’ll go up and they go up we don’t get the LinkedIn connection right, it’s all. It has

to be done in order to get everything there so the way that I do it is I create daily goals. So that, I’m always doing the most important shit, no matter what, it’s prioritize that I have to record this thing, no matter how I feel, because that’s the gateway to all the rest of the social media on the channel. So, it’s in my daily goals. I just do it. And if you have your daily basic routine, like people brush their teeth every day so they could have dental health, they go to the gym everyday so they keep their, their body fit. Well, if you do it in your business or in your parenting or in your intimate relationship or whatever, and you have these processes that you do every day, no matter what, it has these long term compounding effects that create. Oh, this guy is a gracious guy he’s one of the coolest guys I know he’s one of the nicest guys I know he’s one of the best parents I’ve ever met. He’s so chill you know whatever, right, all of those things happen because daily, daily practice so if you set your daily basic routine and your daily goals up, so that support your overall goals, then you’re going to have a much more effective lifestyle. That’s going to make you rise above everybody else, just like you wanted to, in the first place. And the last thing I want to cover real quick was daily pleasures. So, if you’re always working and it’s always grinding like if you’re a warrior and you’re always just fighting day in day out and there’s nothing to kind of balance that out in your energy, you’re going to have a bad time your motivation is going to drop your physical health is going to drop because you’re, you’re going to exhaust yourself you’re gonna burn yourself at both ends. So, you have to play an in to your day, a very specific, what’s the word I’m looking for, like, like self pleasure routine. I’m not saying jackoff I mean, feel free to jack off if you want but you need to have something that you’re, that makes you happy. Some people will, you know, get up and look at the sunset and some people will meditate in a place with nature. Some people will play video games, some people will whatever and it’s, it is kind of a distraction, but it also kind of fills your soul up. Personally, I use interactions with other people like that so that’s what drives me so no matter what. Every day I end up going out and meeting new people, that’s just my discipline and it has been for 13 years I have missed maybe 55 nights out in all 13 years because usually because I had a fever or something or I you know it’s Christmas, you know I know nothing was open, but I have made this a habit I’ve just made all these great friends and social connections and you know, I’ve met my lovers through that I met my business connects through that and that discipline though that one discipline my entire life just go out for at least half an hour every day to someplace social is something that has completely and utterly built the course of my life and it supports all of my other goals. So yeah, you got to plan in some places for self pleasure daily pleasure, because it’ll balance you out and maybe not so stressed the fuck out. So I think that’s all I wanted to say on podcast number was 13 1314. I think it’s 14. And we’re getting real close to the Christmas holiday so I’m going to go get some shit done so I can release some Christmas and New Year’s sales on the other blog, and I will be back here tomorrow with, I forgot the name of the post it’s. Oh, we’re talking about intro to self hypnosis tomorrow. So, I’ll be back tomorrow on this hypnosis episode for Episode 15, and I’ll see you then. Until then, stay awesome, stay positive.