We’re on number 6 in the fuck self doubt series, an we’re talking today about strategies to deal with self doubt. We’ve talked about how to kick negative thoughts in the face, dealing with where self-doubt comes from… Now today we have some strategies to deal with self doubt.
Let’s jump into it.
Alright so we’re going to go over some importantways to deal with self doubt when it happens. Even the most successful people have self doubt. If you’re not doing something that’s out of the ordinary – something that you don’t normally do – then you don’t have self doubt. If you’re pretty sure about what’s going on with what you’re about to do (you have a high level of certainty), then you don’t have any issues.
If you’re trying to find new strategies to deal with old shit, self doubt is going to show up. Dealing with it applies to everybody. If you let self doubt control you, and make your decisions for you… If you let it rule your life, it’s a total problem. We want to have plans and strategies in place to deal with it.
Strategies and Mindsets for dealing with self doubt
You’re not alone
- You’re not alone
You’re not alone in the world
The first mindset is to realize that you’re not alone. Everyone experiences self doubt – whether you have friends, family or anybody to talk to right now – You’re not alone in your feelings.
There are people who can relate to you, no matter what situation you’re in. There’s message boards, Facebook groups, Reddit, live support groups available: you can find somebody who feels the same way you do and is struggling in the same way you are.
The issue is not what’s going on in your circumstances, it’s how you react to things that matters. So, you can find others, to talk about with, you can jump into message bars you can jump in the Facebook groups that kind of forum stuff, and talk to other people who are having similar problems than you as you, so you can you can commiserate with them and figure out what to do from kind of a main mindset perspective. Sometimes you feel like nobody understands you. Sometimes you feel like that, you’re kind of alone in your journey and you’re not. We’re all experiencing the same shit on different levels. And if you react in a giving up victim like way, then you’re going to have non stellar results right so like for me right now I’m like working really hard on money right like I’m dealing with. For the first time in a long long time, not having a job and not being able to get one because the markets kind of not hiring at the moment. And instead of sitting around alone thinking, I’m bullshit. Right. I talked to other people about their struggles, and I got two job offers so far. They didn’t pan out but by by just having those conversations and getting some understanding from other people started to see the doors open up and what’s actually possible for me to do right now. You know, I decided to get any job I took drive for Postmates, just to get some money, rolling in and then I’m continuing to work on so positive and timid continuing to work on my agency and starting to get you know traction there. But if I start talking to other people who are dealing with the same thing I’m starting to learn these strategies and what actually works and what’s not just filler. So, you’re not alone, somebody else is having your problem somebody else has had your problem. They’re virtually no new problems under the sun. Unless you know you’re super high end and you’re trying to develop rockets or fucking invent new shit and deal with the Supreme Court and stuff, like, I’m not there. So chances are somebody else has had this issue, and you can talk about it with them and they might have some things to shed some light on the situation, second strategy for self doubt management is keeping a journal. I journal every fucking day. A big pusher of the journal thing. If you write down your self doubts today. I don’t want you to write them down and repeat them over and over to have you focus on them but if you write down your self doubts, and you start digging in like we did in Episode Three of this thing to figure out where they come from and question on whether or not they’re your self doubts are useful. Then, as you move forward in life, you know, two weeks from now one month from now six months from now, you’ll be able to look back at these things and see how you push through the times where you had self doubt. Normally, your doubts come from similar patterns
and have happened ever since childhood. So if you run into an issue. It looks the same your personal limits your limiting beliefs, look similar to some of the other limiting beliefs that are available in your past and you’ve gotten through those problems. So you can see how you got through them. If you keep a record, if you don’t give a record your mind to sort of adapt so what’s going on right now, and you forget that used to be this way or used to think this way. But if you write it all down and you keep a record, you’ll be able to see it and you’ll be able to map yourself on an upward trajectory of attitude and mindset. Third general strategy for self doubt management. Don’t compare yourself to others. One of the worst things you can do is make comparisons of your life to somebody else’s. And that works both ways, right, like if you compare yourself to somebody richer than you and your problem is money, then you’re going to be like, I’m not good enough I suck I don’t even know why I should try and if you compare yourself to somebody who’s poor than you like I’m better than you. Then, you’re still going to keep yourself in this limited mindset in money and you’re not be looking for new opportunities and new ways to expand your wealth and your, in your financial Empire. Same thing with, you know love interests and and health right like if you’re looking at somebody who’s super skinny on the magazines and you’re like, Ah, man I wish I was them I’m never gonna get there I don’t have the willpower blah blah blah, then you don’t really apply yourself to the diet and figure out what’s good for you, you know, apply yourself to the workout and figure out what’s good for you. If you’re looking at a person who’s unavailable to you and then you just sort of sad that you’re not able to get that person like in you’re comparing yourself against other people who are able to just effortlessly date or whatever, then you’re still going to talk shit to yourself and still get a hold yourself down and carry yourself out and carry your limiting beliefs with you. If you don’t compare yourself to others, then you are better able to figure out how you actually are and how you’re actually being in the world and how it’s working against the feedback in the world like if you’re not comparing yourself. Oh, I don’t make as much money as this guy or I’m not as good looking at this guy, then you can see, okay, I am as good looking as I am, how can I improve it to get my results better in the world because it’s really good. It’s you and your environment that’s really it like you don’t have other people just don’t really matter unless you’re doing like cooperative shit like you might have to impress somebody to get into a job interview or whatever and then their opinion matters but most of the time, it should doesn’t matter at all. And you still need to compare yourself against other applicants even in that example is need to compare yourself against the ideal that your new employer is looking for and the clearer you have an understanding of that. And the clarity of your understanding of what you’re able to offer in that space, then the better your matches are going to be. Fourth, strategy, general strategy in dealing with self doubt is alert gratitude. Every single event in life has been grateful for. Even the worship that you put up with can be turned around and make you can make it a lesson right they either win or you learn right. If you learn a lesson for real. Then the next time you show up, you show up a little bit better next time you see a situation that similar you handle it a little bit better. And the people who’ve ever overcome the worst shit like death and crime and illness and parents leaving them and businesses failing and business partners like stabbing them in the back, they all have one thing in common. That’s their abilities to see the positives. If they can be at least grateful to one person or grateful that something happened, then they can see the lesson in it, and they can carry it on to the next level. If you don’t see the lesson to it, you take a victim mentality, and you just sort of sit there whining about how you didn’t get what you thought you deserved. Then you’re wasting time and you’re keeping yourself dot alive, your self doubt still hold up in your mind, just as strong as it ever was because you keep reinforcing it by imagining the negative effects. If you start to look at the positives you don’t see all angles of it, then you’re better able to leverage it in the future. next strategy for dealing with self doubt is to set small attainable immediate goals. It feels really good when you get some shit accomplished. But sometimes we have such perfectionism and expectations of ourselves that we make these big ass goals and we project them out in the future. And then, we don’t meet them and so the self doubt keeps maintaining itself in our brain.
But if you start setting these really small goals that still move you towards the end goal, then your motivational system, the thing that gets you know the feels really good when you achieve something gets fired off on a constant regular basis and it’s kind of like a muscle it’ll get better and more at adapted when you use it more often so if you set small goals you break everything down. I break everything down into like 15 minute goals and I’ll probably put my time management strategies up pretty soon but you reg everything down to like 15 minute goals and if you can’t even get that then you drop them down a little two minute tasks and then you just start checking them off and all of a sudden your shit gets accomplished and you feel very accomplished and you know that you can get somewhere, even though it might take longer than you like or taking more resources than you like you know you can get somewhere. Like, that’s it. Yeah set small goals, make them achievable, and then start checking the list off. Now, obviously you want to be in the direction of your big main badass goals, you can’t like you can’t just like make a list of things to do and then start checking off the list and expect to get anywhere because you know sometimes we make lists for lists sakes, and then lists sake. And then, and then we just check off a bunch of boxes and they don’t really make us feel any good. Right. Like, you want the things that you’re doing to be small steps towards your grand total dream and vision, and if you can do that, then it’ll do a whole lot to deconstruct the problem in your brain of self doubt sticking yourself up there and staying there next strategy is to surround yourself with positive people.
And the next strategy is to surround yourself with positive people take the time to pick out people you already know who already make you feel good about yourself. If you don’t have those people find them stop hanging out with negative as Fox. You don’t have. If you don’t have them, like, oh my god. All right. If you surround yourself with a bunch of people who naysay you, who create a bunch of self doubt in your brain, a fucking limit your exposure to that. Because you can’t get anywhere if you constantly second guessing yourself, and having it reinforced by the people around you. You can find these people in similar interest groups like go find meetups find Facebook groups find other thing, other, like common interests and find people who are super positive in that space. If you’re not around more positive people, you will sink to the level of the negativity in your life. Stop that shit. Surround yourself with positive people. Now, next thing is to learn to respect obstacles. Now everything. Everybody’s got obstacles in their life, they got they got some circumstances experiences in the world that keep them from doing shit some people got kids. Some people have beyond the little things on their ankles and music can’t leave their house. There’s all sorts of things that hold you back you got to respect them right you got you got to know that they’re there. You can’t just ignore them like they’re not because often the consequences tend to get bigger as time goes on. If you feel like a bad parent and you’re not giving enough time to your kids, and then you go out and you ignore them and you shuffle them off to somebody else your guild gets bigger and your, your self doubt in that area gets bigger so like, find practical strategic ways to deal with that stuff, even if they’re small, and keep taking those things out of the nice because if you don’t respect the obstacles they will eventually eat you alive. The way to deal with this stuff is to respect the fact that you might have something to learn, or gain from the experience. Like, if you have a specific problem with like, Oh, I can’t talk to girls because I always fall in love every time and then I get heartbroken and I don’t like that feeling well. Chances are you have something to learn about communication and putting people on pedestals and putting all your heart and soul into somebody who’s not yet invested in you, like those things there’s things to learn their skill sets and if you can learn those skill sets, you’ll be better at dating and, you know, getting the things you want accomplished right there respect that and respect the obstacles, if you, if you find a way to respect the obstacles as like viable opponents, then you can deal with them effectively. The biggest problem. Most people have in this area is clarity like they’re not clear on what their real problems are they’re not clear on what their real goals are, if they don’t have any clarity, they just stuck. They can’t take action, and they can doubt their ability to take action if they don’t take it often enough next strategy is learn from your mistakes you make a mistake. Stop beating yourself up about it there’s absolutely fucking nothing useful about beating yourself up. I’m going to go into the hardcore science the science behind this. But beating yourself is a fucking pointless endeavor. Like, like, it doesn’t even work. Most people. We beat ourselves up normally because we think that next time we’ll feel compelled to be better at it because we had such a bad experience this time but that’s generally not the case. If your willpower is such that you don’t get the things that you want done done, and then you beat yourself up for it, then you start identify as somebody who doesn’t get things done, and then it makes you less effective in the future. Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from your mistakes, except what happened. and let go of the rest of the bullshit. If you take a journal and you write down okay this happened. Here’s the solution that I provided here’s the thing that that didn’t work. Also, here’s some things I can try next time if you actively think okay what else could I do that can work in this situation. And if your first answer is, I don’t know that you’re not thinking hard enough, figure out how you’re going to do it differently next time, even if it doesn’t seem like it has a good rate of success you haven’t tried it, so try to come up with different things than you normally do because what you normally do will stick you in a rut. What do they say the definition of insanity is trying the same shit the same way over and over and over again and getting the same results or expecting the results silliness. Anyway, what if we were six figure out how to do it differently and then try that the next time and you’ll start to see that progress.
Next strategy is know when to walk away. There are sometimes to give the fuck up. Really, relationships, jobs situations that, you know, social friendships that are not serving it that you can cut these things out of your life and be a much better person for it you have a lot less negative influence a lot less doubt and craziness like foisted upon you by the people you don’t like one time, my mom, she fucking would just every time I saw just beat me up about everything. Just like make me try to make me feel guilty. And it was hard to get out from under it so I just stopped talking to her for like a year. And, yeah, I mean I saw her on the holidays or whatever we didn’t really have an active relationship and it wasn’t like punishment I wasn’t trying to manipulate or anything, it was just like, I just need to not be around that influence like, ah, and when we got back in touch and we started talking again.
The, the reality of the, what’s the word I’m looking for. The,
the way that she treats me is totally different, right. She’s still her she’s still trying to guilt and do all this stuff, but I didn’t have to fucking deal with the guilt for so long that I learned how to deal with it in a good way, where I let go of the bullshit and I just interact with her as a human being, and instead of feeling all obligated because she was my mother and dealing with all that. I became a much better person, by removing the poison from my life for a bit. I’m not saying I need to cut my mom off because she’s not that toxic but the. The thing is that there are going to be people, relationships, jobs that are just fucking you up and creating a lot of self doubt, and if you just remove them from your life, then they’re not fucking you up anymore. And that helps, sometimes you do that out of fear, and then you lose something that was good. So be careful to understand exactly why but have the self awareness understand exactly why you need to cut them off. And, but if it’s time it’s fucking time. So I’ve been a dead horse. The next strategy is called, it’s okay to be uncomfortable. The one thing to realize while life is okay to be comfortable uncomfortable sometimes, everybody’s all chasing happiness and comfortability and other that, but like that’s not how life always works man like it’s okay to be used to the bullshit sometimes you can’t grow. If you experience some discomfort if you know step out of your comfort zone a little bit, doesn’t mean you have to be in torture, not physically or mentally or spiritually, but it’s okay to be a little bit fearful a little don’t know what’s gonna happen because that’s where all the big growth happens is like putting yourself in a position where you don’t have all the answers. That’s great. being uncomfortable or unsure in the situation is totally natural so if you put things in perspective. By seeing the contrast of what’s going on, and being okay with that uncomfortability. You know when you make a good choice because then you know what it looks like on the other side. So, it’s okay to be uncomfortable, good strategy next strategy is to to assess your strengths and weaknesses.
One way to deal with your self doubt is to honestly figure out where you’re saying this weaknesses lie This is self awareness exercise, if you know what you’re strong in. And you know what you suck at. Then you can improve. If you have the clarity, understand where you suck, then like, you can improve what you’re doing. You can find ways to do it differently you can test new strategies. If you find things that you’re strong at, you can double down on that stuff. You can find more situations where you can use your strengths. Sometimes the way to improve your weaknesses is let somebody else deal with it delegate it. If you’re a bad cook but, but you don’t want to lose weight, and you don’t want to learn to cook, it’s okay to order a meal kit, or to have somebody else do it like I got this buddy in Doha, he runs like a $5 million business where he delivers food to a bunch of people who want to eat keto but then want to cook it themselves. So, he just like carts the stuff all over the city hired a bunch of chefs and he deals with, like, he’s a badass. And it’s for people who don’t want to go do it themselves, because they’re not good at it. Well, fuck it. They hired somebody to do it. So, if you have a weakness and you can’t get around it, then find somebody to delegate to that’s sometimes a good way to deal with it. There’s always a way around it that strength that you have, have naturally. Can you can you can improve upon them just by thinking about it having a little bit clarity and trying different tactics and measuring what’s going on with your results. So yeah, assessing strengths and weaknesses, be self aware. The next strategy is get accountability accountability is super badass. Most of my job as a dating coach is accountability is getting people to do what they said they’re going to do. It’s not the information that comes out of my mouth is readily found in all sorts of books and blog posts and podcasts and YouTube, like, the information is not the problem. The problem that people normally have is sticking to the goals that they set it’s getting getting their best intentions align up with their best actions. Get some accountability, you can help to have somebody around you can get a life coach and get a guy like me, you can get a counselor, you can get a friend you can get a support group like whatever you want, get, get some accountability answer to somebody. Try not to choose a friend without their knowledge though like, don’t, don’t get somebody
expect them
to hold you accountable and then not tell them right like other people will be like yeah you know if I just my mom should have woke me up like No, your mom shouldn’t have woke you up. He should have told your mom. Hey, can you wake me up if I’m not up by this time, and then had her agreement. And then, only then you can have her hold you accountable don’t expect other people to do shit for you. But if you have positive friends somebody who focuses on like cool outcomes and like the ability to actually do shit, then have them help you. That’s okay. But they know what they’re doing. They might lead you astray. There are a lot of guys who like, I need a wingman bro, and then they, they, they go out with dudes who are completely clueless about relating to other humans, their idea of dating is to get really drunk and try to find somebody who likes that drunk personality, and although that is a
really effective method
at getting short relationships and interactions. It’s not all that effective at, you know, qualifying them to your standards and having a conversation that lets you appreciate each other’s, and respect each other as humans, so don’t take out a wing man it sucks. If you want to have somebody hold you accountable, make sure they know what the fuck they’re doing, you don’t want them to throw you to the wolves. I had a girlfriend. She’s a chef, and I went on this diet and I was like, babe. Don’t. Don’t let me eat anything bad is like okay and then she cooks me all this crap like good food, but like way too many calories and I’m like, you’re not helping the goal that I asked you to help me with, like, well, I’m a cook. What do you want, like you want you want me to cook your food or not. I’m like, she was not qualified to hold me accountable to my diet goals. So, you know, make sure that, who knows, the guy, the person that you try to get to hold you accountable Michelle What the fuck, they’re doing. And if you could afford it higher life coach. I am one, and there’s some other guys on the soapbox of crew. He wants somebody to check in with check in with weekly and deal with. There’s a product for that somewhere on our products page, but get somebody who can deal with it. And people like us, we have like a clear understanding of behavioral and motivational strategies so if you can get that in your way that great. So, all dissolve accountable. All the strategies that we just talked about for dealing with self doubt, they’re not going to work if you don’t implement them. If you don’t put them into play. They’re not gonna do anything for you, you can know oh yeah, who puts the bed to Duke foot somebody to be accountable good advice. But like, if you don’t do it, it’s not going to fucking help you. Life isn’t that complicated, like yourself, I’ve got to figure out how to be romantic with somebody at some point and popular kids up for your evolutionary imperative, but like, it’s not all that complicated like most things have a system. People have trailblaze before you, everybody knows, like everything that you want to do is probably been done before,
by a lot of people. So
strategies for
self doubt here. If you’re doubting yourself, and you want to get over it and you believe that you can do the shit. And if you have other strategies, please put them in the blog comments below or send me a message over social and I’ll add them will keep updating this document as it continues to move forward. But self doubt hold you back from a whole lot of shit. Stop letting their tactics here use them. If you let it go out of control, you can get a lot more anxiety and get depression, you get a bad situation, it’s bad, it’s bad. If you really want to experience super joy, super joy super joy. The words that come out of my mouth don’t make sense sometimes if you want to experience a lot of joy in life. You want to believe in yourself. You want to stop, dealing with yourself beating yourself up and telling yourself you can’t do it. Start out. Just fucking do it. Don’t delay. Don’t make excuses just do it anyway you can do right out. Now you now you listen all that shit. You’re probably wondering where to start. Use this last part to get yourself organized and get ready for your changes. And if you really want to overcome self doubt and start believing in yourself, it’ll take some actions. So, let’s get started. First off, pinpoint where your self doubt began, there’s a couple of podcasts back tells you how to figure out where self doubt is in the situation, use the information you learned. It’s important to figure out where it started. You don’t have to go relive the trauma, but it’s important to figure it out. If you can’t figure it out, get therapy for real handle that shit. Don’t let it sit there and like toxify your life. And speaking of toxicity. If you’re in a toxic relationship with somebody. If you’re a toxic relationship with somebody who doesn’t believe in you and tells you So, get the fuck out work on getting out of it, because they’re just gonna hold you the fuck back. Stop that shit. And then assess your strengths and weaknesses like we did in the last tip, trying to figure out what you’re good at and what you’re not good at. And then Double Diamond strengths and improve your weaknesses or delegate them. And then the last thing I want to tell you. Well, not the last thing to say the last thing I’m gonna tell you is, get some fucking exercise, eat right, exercise, everybody okay, I’m not gonna go on a big fucking bandwagon about sugar in American diets and whatever, but like, half of you are zombies around the world be trying to fucking think straight and you can’t, because you don’t either don’t have enough electrolytes in your system, or you’re too much fucking glycogen or too much glucose. Like, there’s too much sugar in your system so your brain doesn’t even work right. You’re foggy. You’re tired. Zip cycle sucks. And it takes all your motivation, it takes all your behavioral, like any motivation that you have your favorite motivation and if you have a whole lot of self doubt and not a lot of willpower, your physiology has a lot to do with it. So, he right. Get your blood moving every once in a while. Yeah. Do that. And next thing is buy a journal. If you haven’t got a journal yet I fucking harp on it every episode, get a fucking journal so you can write down all this shit, you can write your self doubts you can write, how they change and affect themselves over time, you can write all of your new opportunities and strategies you can write down your gratitudes you can write down all the little written exercises we do on this on cell positive podcast every day. Like, there’s all sorts of things you can do in the journal get the journal. Get it. All right. The rest of it. You can read it on the blog I’m talking about making small goals and, you know, taking massive action I’ve talked about that ad nauseum before rights and shut down. Figure out where it is and started proving districts, like that. It’s really simple way. If you doubt yourself pinpoint it as a clarity on what it is, and then figure out, take it out. Like it was a cancer in your system, because it is. Anyways, hopefully you learn a lot about this shit about what’s going to build up your self image of kick self doubt into your life, move you toward believing yourself. Again, believing in yourself again, remember, nothing is gained without putting one foot in front of the other, get, get
fucked take action,
but also remember that you’re capable. You can do it. And you deserve to do it too, because you’re worth it. You have the tools you have enough to deal with whatever’s in front of you. If you can access your own inner resources, you’ll win. Anyways, that’s today’s self positive podcast, I’ll be back tomorrow with some more shit. If you like us five stars, if you don’t give your review elsewhere. And until tomorrow. Stay awesome, stay positive.
Now, let’s go over some important ways to deal with self-doubt when it happens. Be assured that even the most successful person works to overcome self-doubt at times. Feeling self-doubt is not the problem. Letting self-doubt control you, make your decisions for you, and rule your life is the problem.
- You’re Not Alone – Everyone experiences self-doubt and whether you have friends, family, or anyone to talk to right now about this, you are not alone in your feelings. It’s all how you react to it that matters. You can find others to commiserate with by joining Facebook groups or other types of groups and forums to help feel less alone with your issues. - Keep a Journal – One way to overcome self-doubts is to keep a journal to help remind yourself of accomplishments that you have experienced. You can talk about the self-doubt you felt and how you pushed through it. It doesn’t have to be a false representation of what you’re doing, but do try to focus on the positives of each situation and what you learned from it. - Don’t Compare Yourself to Others – The worst thing you can do is to make comparisons of your life to someone else’s. This only breeds more self-doubt and even jealousy. The truth is, you have no idea what other people have gone through to be where they are, or even if they’re really being honest about their situation. You only know the truth about your own situation. - Learn Gratitude – Every single event in life has something to be grateful for. Even the worst things can be turned around to be a lesson that can help you in the next situation in your life. People who have overcome the worst things that you can imagine – death, crime, illness – all have one thing in common: that’s their ability to see the positives in it or at least be grateful they knew the person, loved the person, or something good. - Set Small, Immediate Goals – One way to overcome issues with self-doubt is to experience success. Start setting small goals that allow you to experience immediate success. It depends where you are in your journey, but success can be as small as getting up in the morning, to going to the store, to something more challenging like applying for new jobs. (Note that this said “applying for new jobs”, not getting one.)- Surround Yourself with Positive People – Take the time to pick out people you already know who makes you feel good about yourself. If you don’t have those people in your life, it’s time to seek them out. You can find people via meetups online, taking a class, group meetings, a book club and so forth. The important thing is to start being around positive people more.- Learn to Respect Obstacles – Everyone has obstacles that prevent them from experiencing full joy and push them back into self-doubt. Everyone. The way to deal with these issues is to respect the fact that you may have something to learn or gain from the experience. Find a way to respect the obstacles that are put in front of you and learn from them.- Learn from Mistakes – When you make a mistake, instead of beating yourself up, accept it and learn from it. Sometimes it helps to write down the experience in your journal with a focus on what you learned and how you’ll do it differently if that comes up again. - Know When to Walk Away – There are times when giving up is not a failure. There are many times in life where you try something but it’s just not working for you and it’s time to walk away. That may be a business choice, a relationship choice, or something else entirely. If it’s causing you too much stress that cannot be overcome, it’s time to leave it and move on. - It’s OK to Be Uncomfortable – One thing to realize about life is that it’s okay to be uncomfortable sometimes. You won’t grow if you don’t experience some discomfort. That doesn’t mean you have to be into mental, physical, or spiritual torture; it’s just that feeling a little fearful, uncomfortable or unsure is natural. Put things into perspective so that you know you’re making good choices. - Assess Your Strengths and Weaknesses – One way to deal with self-doubt is to honestly figure out where your strengths and weaknesses lie. Then, develop your strength and even improve upon your weaknesses when you can. Sometimes the way you improve a weakness is to let someone else deal with it. For example, if you’re a bad cook but you want to lose weight, and don’t want to learn to cook, it’s okay to order a meal kit or to get someone else to do it if you have the ability. There is always a way around a weakness. The strengths you possess naturally can also be improved upon almost painlessly. - Get Accountability – When you are trying to overcome self-doubt and start believing in yourself, it can help to have someone around who can offer accountability. This can be a life coach, a counselor, a friend or a group. It’s best not to choose a friend without their knowledge, though. If you have a positive friend who is willing to help you, that’s okay. But if they don’t know what they’re doing, they may lead you astray. A life coach is a great way to help build your self-image and overcome self-doubt so that you can believe in yourself because they have training and know their role.
These strategies for dealing with self-doubt will not work for you if you don’t implement them. The issues with self-doubt are so serious that they can make you stuck in a life that you don’t want and aren’t loving. This can lead to anxiety, depression, and that can spiral into a bad situation.
If you really want to experience true joy in life, believe in yourself, and get rid of the debilitating self-doubt you’re experiencing, start implementing now. Don’t delay or make excuses.
What to Do Right Now
Now that you’ve read all of that, you are probably wondering where to start, so use this last part to get yourself organized and ready for change. If you really want to overcome self-doubt and start believing in yourself, it will take action on your part. So let’s get started.
Pinpoint Where Your Self-Doubt Began
Using the information you’ve learned, it’s important to figure out where your self-doubt began. It may be from childhood, in which case it may take some professional help to overcome it. It may be something you fell into due to other issues that need to be identified. If you’re in a toxic relationship, for example, you may have to work on getting out of it before you can move forward.
Honestly Assess Your Strengths and Weaknesses
One way to do this is to get out some paper and a writing utensil, and simply write on one side of the paper your strengths, and on the other side your weaknesses. Then take a highlighter and highlight the things you want to work on to improve your strengths and the things you would like to do better in terms of your weaknesses.
Get a Physical from a Doctor
This is important because sometimes self-doubt is caused by anxiety and sometimes anxiety can be caused by vitamin deficiencies. Get a vitamin panel and tell your doctor that you’re experiencing anxiety. They’ll know which vitamins to test for to ensure that you can get the information you need.
Eat Right and Exercise
This may seem silly, but eating right and exercising can be one of your first successes and experiences that you can look back to that show that you make good choices. This small thing can give you the confidence you need to stop having so much self-doubt in your life, building your ability to believe in yourself. If all you do is add more water, more fruits, and veggies and start walking each day, that’s going to help a lot.
Buy a Journal
Find a good paper journal that you can write in each day before you go to bed and when you first wake up. It’s good to do this without technology because it’ll be something you can do without causing you to experience extra stress from the blue light in technology that can cause people to experience anxiety and insomnia.
Seek Out Help
Whether you have a friend you know will help you, or you feel the need to seek professional help in the form of a counselor or life coach, it’s important to find help. The right help for you is what works. It doesn’t matter what anyone else uses; it only matters what is working for you to build your belief in yourself while you’re letting go of self-doubt.
Make Small Goals
Set some small goals so that you can experience success. Your small goals might consist only of the things on this list. But you may have identified some things by reading this that stick out to you as small goals that you can immediately see results from that you want to add.
Implement
You can learn all that you want to learn about ridding yourself of self-doubt and building your belief in yourself, but if you don’t act and do something (in other words, implement), you won’t see the success you desire. Even if it’s the smallest thing, like reading this or taking a course, or finding a group, that’s doing something. Small things can lead to big results.
Hopefully, you’ve learned a lot of information that is going to help you build your self-image, help you get rid of self-doubt, and move toward believing in yourself again quickly. Remember that nothing is gained without putting one foot in front of the other. But also remember that you are capable, you can do it, and you deserve to do it too. You are worth it.